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THE OPEN CUPBOARD HOUSE: (RESTORATION HEALING CENTER FOR ABUSE KIDS).
Our Mission first is keeping our children safe, an environment that they can be loved and be free. The safety of a child/children is very important and helps to bring stability to the child/children. We Are Here To Unlock The Confines Of Cupboards. Bringing Awareness To  Abuse. Helping Those That Feel Rejected Know They Are Worth And Can Soar Above Their Situations. Victory Over Darkness.  Many That Are Still Locked In their Cupboards And Need To Climbed Out.

HELP STOP CHILD ABUSE! HELP BE A VOICE! Our Children Need Us.  This Outreach Programme Will Allow Our Children To Become, And Overcome, And Have A Safe Home (THE OPEN CUPBOARD HOUSE) On Its Way.

THE OPEN CUPBOARD HOUSE: Is In The Process Of Building A Children Home For The Abused kids (RESTORATION CENTER). The Structured Has Already Started. It Is A Registered Company (NGO) Here In Trinidad. When The Home Is Called “THE OPEN CUPBOARD HOUSE.

SAFETY TIPS : WORKBOOK FOR KIDS

SAFETY TIPS: WHAT YOUNG CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THEIR PERSONAL SAFETY

This is the fourth of Ms.Gajadhar’s published works. This book opens a window to the important issue of child abuse and focuses on keeping children safe. The proceeds of books go to the home.

SAFETY TIPS: WHAT YOUNG CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THEIR PERSONAL SAFETY, is a workbook designed for primary schools in the Caribbean, and internationally. The book is intended to help children cope with negative situations that they may encounter as they grow. It comprises quizzes, short stories as well colouring activities and drawings that are meant to help children develop critical thinking skills as well as a sense of safety and security. In addition, the book encourages parents to work with their children, and teachers to be more involved with their students. This book addresses the requirements of the primary school curriculum for young children.

The book is written in three sections: AT HOME AND FAMILY, SAFETY AND SCHOOL and OUT AND ABOUT. The accompanying manual, SAFETY TIPS: WITH PARENTS AND TEACHERS MIND contains additional material for parents and teachers. This information will prove to be a handy and valuable tool, particularly in the hands of teachers involved in Social Studies and Family life Education. The various activities and resources included will help promote awareness and facilitate healthy discussions with your own children, or with those you teach, By providing relevant information. The manual provides a wonderful opportunity for you to help establish a safe and happy environment for our children as you educate them about life and living.

FOR PARENTS AND TEACHERS

Being a child is wonderful and exhilarating. Unfortunately, being a child in this world can also be dangerous; danger lurks in familiar, in unfamiliar, as well as in unsuspecting places. Therefore, it is our responsibility as caring adults, to protect our children and keep them safe.

In this fast-moving, complex world, crimes, such as physical and verbal abuse, incest and cyber-crimes occur much too often. these crimes happen not only on streets and in schools, but even in our homes.

While observing children , where they have suffered grief and pain; those who have been abused and victims of crimes, I have become aware of the need to provide them with knowledge about self, and information about the dangers that exist in the world.

As parents and as teachers, sometimes we are unable to willful this need, Unfortunately, we do not always know what we really need to do, or to say. Thus the need for this book.

TO STUDENTS

This book, SAFETY TIPS: WHAT YOUNG CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THEIR PERSONAL SAFETY, is for you. It has been written to assist you in discovering who you are, and also to help you in coping with the many challenges you may meet as you grow older.

included here, are many interesting topics and activities that will help you feel good about yourself. It contains useful knowledge, and skills for your personal safety.

It will provide the necessary tools that will help you to make the right choices. i hope it will also prepare you to avoid dangers in this fast paced world in which you live.

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Commentary

This book is an extraordinary account of the inner workings of an adult survivor of childhood abuse. It is unusual in its frankness and the ease with which the author who was an abused child openly exhibits some of the character-hood of the imbedded aftermath of victimhood.
Abused from infancy by her mother until taken into care by the Authorities, as an adult she repeats over and over how she loves her mother and longs for her, still looking for a surrogate mother or a mother substitute in the women she meets as an adult. She nurses her vulnerability, dwelling constantly on her emotional pain, suffering and vulnerability, as is classically the profile of a victim, and as a result continues to attract those who will feed on that vulnerability.
As in a classic victim’s profile she locates the causes of what occurs to her in each tragic and abusive encounter, externally, as those abuses were caused externally to her as an infant. Victims can and often do continue with such internalization for their entire lives.
She refers repeatedly to the expression “the child in me” that needs love and support and help” as though not realizing that all human beings carry with them the vulnerability of the child that they were, and as psychologists from Freud to Eric Berne have written in their books over and over, can frequently motivate what we think are rational and adult decisions.
What is unique in Cheryl Ann Gajadhar’s testimony is the unselfconscious openness with which she displays all the characteristic symptoms of the resultant egocentricity and self-absorption that victims continue to exhibit from childhood onward. She writes unselfconsciously about weeping when she is given a separate bag of chicken nuggets and fries instead of being

offered the same meal from a communal bag, of the hope and then the despair as woman friend after woman friend from the church groups she gravitates to does not support her in the way she feels she needs and deserves help and support.
 
What carries her through these perceptions of betrayal by virtually all the church groups she becomes attached to and particularly the women who befriend her, is her unwavering faith. She repeats to herself that she has faith in God and her deep belief that He is the External Force that will make everything better. At the end of her testimony in this book she acknowledges that it is that which has healed her of her panic attacks, depressions, suicidal thoughts and her searches for a surrogate mother.
 
It aptly illustrates the Eriksonian conflict between the need for intimacy/community which her involvement in successive church groups demonstrates, and her need for independence which her eventual withdrawal from the surrogates she attracts and the balance achieved by writing and publishing herself of her books which has brought her both adulation and an independent means of survival. It has also provided to her the healing felt by victims of abuse in telling her story and receiving support and admiration for having done so.
This is not a case study written by a professional psychology teacher or practitioner where the victim’s testimony is given through the filter of the professional practicing psychologist. This is the real thing, the testimony of an adult survivor of childhood abuse, in her own words about how she perceived what happened, and how the victimology symptoms play themselves out.

This book should be read by all psychologists, medical and social work personnel that deal with the adult victims of child abuse.
 
Diana Mahabir-Wyatt
Chair, Coalition Against Domestic Violence
March 2015

“Touching”. “Heartbreaking”. “Moved me to tears”. “Survivor extraordinaire”.  “Incredible”.  “Miraculous”. “A tribute to the power of God”.

But the comment that describes the potency of her testimony is the following: “If she could overcome, I could overcome also.” The book contains a journey, an odyssey into the navigation of disappointments, even from religious institutions. It compels us to ask the question: “Are religious groups ready to deal with sensitive issues such as abuse, abandonment, etcetera?”

It suggests strongly that each Christian ambassador should give special attention to assisting traumatized individuals to develop coping mechanisms. We also get a peep into her subconscious exposing the transition period from depression to suicide.

A major issue is the need to engage the society in the process of protecting the vulnerable from the predators. Writing this book is part of her therapy. CONGRATULATIONS!!

Field Secretary, Public Affairs & Religious Liberty Director

Caribbean Union Conference of Seventh-day Adventists

Dr Clive P.  Dottin

THE GIRL IN THE CUPBOARD

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While barely five years old, Annie was continually sexually abused. She recalled the times that she had to go to her aunt’s home where her mother would take her to meet with men, from whom she would get money. After her father died, her mother started seeing different men. She even told the children to call the men daddy. Annie never liked it; she always arrived at the aunt’s home crying.

Her aunt would lift her up in her arms to protect her but her mother would quarrel with her sister, Jane, to put Annie down. The child often refused to let go of her aunt. It was terrible for Annie while she was at her aunt’s house.

Annie spoke painfully about the beatings which her mother inflicted on her children. One day she tied Annie’s elder sister by her hands and feet to the bed and beat her badly. Her mother often became very angry. Annie also remembered the time when she did not want her mother to comb her hair. Her mother got very mad. She went inside and came back out with a piece of rubber with a stick at the end with which she beat Annie and then took it out on her elder sister as well. As far as Annie was concerned all her mother cared about were money, men and rum.

Annie’s mother was hardly at home with them. Most of the time they fed themselves powdered milk and sugar which they mixed in a cup for breakfast and lunch. Being hungry and alone was a frightening thing. Annie wished that her mother would become a different person but she just got worse.